Whether your Soldier is having a hard time coming to the position of attention, you launch your load too quickly, or you find yourself not even thinking about these things much anymore; there are a few things you can do to help improve your sexual performance. This article is not a list of tips and tricks of kama-sutra inspired pleasure moves to help you and your partner become orgasming love-pretzels. This is a serious discussion about you and your mini-you, and how your one-man act can return to the bright-lights of encore-worthy performances.

Reduce Stress

It’s okay, I’ll wait until you’re done laughing. It’s true that stress is inevitable: your job is challenging, your bank account leaves much to be desired, and you’ll be damned if your partner could just stay off your case for one day. Stress steals more than your carefree early-20s joy and boyish charm; stress robs you of your libido. Psychologically, when you are stressed out, it is difficult to refocus your mind and can make it incredibly hard to achieve an erection or reach orgasm. Remember when you were young and frisky and thought about baseball or your grandmother during sex acts to prevent yourself from getting too excited? Stress does essentially the same thing, involuntarily. Physically, stress increases your heart rate and blood pressure, both of which are damaging to your heart and your sex drive. A simple win-win solution here is to vent to (not at) your partner. Talking about your stressors can help calm you down and relax you while improving your relationship. An added bonus is, people love when you trust them enough to talk honestly. You opening up emotionally may help your partner open up physically, which could be enough to completely distract you from your stressors. Like I said, win-win.

Take it Outside

Natural sunshine can help you perk up pretty quickly. Sunlight halts your body’s melatonin production. Melatonin, that all-natural supplement you may take to help you get some restful sleep, also puts your member to bed. All-natural sunlight will rid your body of built-up melatonin and revive your sex drive. This is especially important in the winter months when lack of sunshine creates extra melatonin buildup.

Turn Down the Porn

I won’t recommend you turn the porn off completely, after all, it is a healthy outlet to feed your desires and reflect on things that make you randy, which can increase your sex drive. However, if you watch too much porn or watch porn everytime you masturbate, you may find it difficult to reach climax without the audio-visual fantasy stimulation. There is an element of truth to the argument that too much screen time negatively impairs your ability to interact with real humans; sex is no exception. Depending on your level of dedication to your favorite channel, this tip is relatively easy. No need to make a no-porn resolution, just back off a bit and don’t use it every time.

Engage in Self-Love

Despite your partner’s protests, masturbation is good for you and your libido. Who knows you better than you know yourself? If you aren’t lasting as long as you’d like in bed, or you are reaching the point of ejaculation much quicker than you’d prefer, masturbation can help. When you pleasure yourself, you have total control over the speed and can pause at will. The key is to perform for yourself the way you hope it to go when you’re not alone. Slow down your pace, take your time achieving orgasm. Then, when you go to the live show, your performance may last the entire scene.

Pump it Up

That’s right, my friend; get to the gym and get your workout on. This is another win-win tip. Regular cardiovascular exercise works magic in your heart and your libido. Cardio exercise not only increases endorphin levels and makes you feel sexy enough to get naked, it reduces stress and anxiety. Physiologically, exercise reduces your resting heart rate and blood pressure over time, which means your heart isn’t working as hard and can be accommodating of requests to divert blood to “less essential” parts. Pumping the iron in the gym can dramatically help you get pumped up in bed, and look good doing it.

Seek Professional Help

If you have tried all these tips and you still aren’t performing at your peak, it may be time to seek professional help. There is nothing to be embarrassed about and not seeking help can do far more damage. Perhaps you have an underlying medical condition that is making it difficult to perform. Ignoring the issue can lead to some pretty gnarly consequences. If your performance issues are something simple and you don’t get help, the problems can only worsen and escalate. Studies show that men who have performance problems tend to intentionally start arguments with partners to avoid intimacy, which adds to the stress and can leave you alone. Poor performance can also lead to low self-esteem, negative body image, and depression. Don’t hide in the dark alone. One in four men struggles with some sort of sexual performance issue. Treatment options may be as simple as treating underlying causes to sex therapy. ED medications, Priapus shots, and GAINSWave Therapy can help as well. Contact a men’s health clinic today; life is too short not to live your sex life to the fullest.